Sincere Compliments

After reading the second chapter of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" my assignment is to find sincere ways to complement people around me and observe what happens.

A sincere compliment warrants a broad smile, looking in their eyes and saying "Thank you." Maybe "Thank you for noticing," "I am glad you like that," or "You are Welcome." Be confident that you are worthy of the compliment and more. And let that confidence allow you to share the compliment with others. Spread the joy you've received and compliment someone you know.

Every day I see my children, husband and the nanny. I rarely take the time to think about the great things that they all do. My children get the majority of my compliments. I am not practiced in complimenting my husband, I take him for granted. I pay my nanny, so I think that I am complimenting her every week. However, I know when I have complimented her, she brightens up and she enjoys being appreciated. She then thinks to do more things that she knows will make me happy. It's a positive momentum that is created when compliments are given and received.

It is going to take real effort on my part to make giving compliments a habit. I am accustomed to doing something big to show my appreciation. I know the little things can make as big a difference to people. I need to think about the positive things that the important people in my life give me.

The nanny does a great job playing with the kids and keeping them safe. The kids are learning a lot. She cooks us great meals. She keeps the house in order every day. She is expedient in her work. She does not need supervision and takes care of things the way I would. I have been thrilled with her. I can thank her for a specific thing she did. When I told her the meal yesterday was very good, she lit up.

My husband keeps our business on track. He spends a lot of time with the kids. He helps me with household items. He educates himself everyday. He thinks clearly with a purpose behind everything he says. He is an expert in rehabbing houses. He is passionate about his work. I enjoy spending every day with him.

People I meet throughout the day that I have little knowledge of need to be appreciated as well. The little things they do that I consider normal may be real efforts for them, so I should thank them. Everyone is busy. When I take the time to look at what people are doing for me and let them know I notice and appreciate it will make every person's day brighter.